In my coaching practice, I talk a lot about the Law of Attraction. I’m a firm believer that the way you think influences the way your world takes shape around you, and that you can create the life you desire through the power of positive thought and right action.
The Law of Attraction basically states that what we put our energy into will be drawn to us. So if you’re in a job search, and you spend a few minutes every morning visualizing yourself in the perfect job, you will be more likely to draw that job to you. If you spend a few minutes every day thinking thoughts of abundance and gratitude, you will probably feel abundant and grateful all day long, and have experiences that reinforce that feeling.
The opposite is true as well. If you’ve recently lost your job and you find yourself dwelling on your current lack of money, lack of opportunities, lack of “____,” you may find yourself noticing that lack more and more in your life. You’re actually using the Law of Attraction to draw negative experiences to you.
As human beings, we think about 80,000 thoughts a day. Most of these thoughts are repetitive, the same stories we’ve been telling ourselves for years. They influence how we feel about our work, our finances, our families, and ourselves. Like I talked about in articles from past weeks, it’s all about perspective.
Your Action Step this week is to keep a record of recurring thoughts. If you’re constantly telling yourself, “I hate my co-worker,” “I’m broke, I can’t buy that,” “I’ll never find a job in this market,” or even “I’m ugly,” you’re actually using the Law of Attraction to reinforce these negative experiences in your life.
Once you’ve identified your recurring negative thoughts, try to counteract them with a positive thought as soon as they come up. For example if you’re thinking, “I’m broke,” counteract that statement with one like, “I have all the money I need to provide for myself and my family.” If you’re thinking, “I can’t stand my boss,” counteract it with, “I do not allow negativity to touch me. “
One more thing: The Law of Attraction doesn’t always provide what you want in exactly the way you want it. But when it does pull good things to you, they will be the best things for you at that time.
Here’s a very personal example. My husband and I have wanted children for a long time. But after years of fertility treatments (and lots of work with the Law of Attraction on my part), we still couldn’t get pregnant. I’ve joked that there are other laws beside the Law of Attraction—like the Law of Gravity—and I felt these other Laws were working against me.
One day, some friends stopped by our house with their two children, on their way to the Boston Aquarium. I found myself thinking, “I wish I had kids to go to the Aquarium with.” For the first time, I didn’t specify that they should be MY kids. Two hours later, I got the call about my foster son.
So if you find yourself thinking, “I’ll never find a job,” you might counteract that with a statement like, “The perfect job will come to me at the perfect time.” By eliminating any preconceptions about what the job should be, you open yourself to greater possibilities.