Do you ever feel like your time and energy just seem to slip away from you? You want to accomplish something—like searching for a job, furthering your education, or pursuing a creative path—but your day fills up with mundane tasks and by the time you actually get around to doing what you really need to do, you’re too exhausted to continue?
Sometimes, life really does get in the way of our plans. But other times, we allow our Goblin—our inner critics—to rule the day. Their negative talk makes us feel uncomfortable about pursuing our goals, and so we find something—anything—else to fill our time, so we don’t have to do the things our inner critic tells us we’re not good enough for, or that will be too hard, or too time-consuming…blah, blah, blah.
A great example of this “Goblin block” is writer’s block. It sounds like an old cliché, but acquaintances who have struggled with this tell me that they’ll sometimes do anything—right down to washing the driveway, steam-cleaning the drapes, or cleaning the drains—to avoid putting words to paper. Why? Because their goblin is telling them those words won’t be good enough.
People in a job search situation often experience the same feelings: they’d rather do just about anything besides look through the online job listings. Maybe their inner critic is calling them unqualified. Maybe it’s saying the job market is just too tough. Maybe there’s a hundred other reasons why they can’t/shouldn’t/won’t find a job, but all of them can be time-wasting beliefs.
The point is, negative perspectives and limiting beliefs waste valuable time and energy, and are really counterproductive. Now, if you’ve recently spent a whole day organizing your tee-shirts by color and fabric weight just to avoid logging onto Moster.com, don’t feel guilty: we’ve all done it. Just recognize your avoidance tactics for what they are. Once you’ve done that, you’ll probably have no trouble spotting the boogeyman whose negative talk made sorting cotton from polyester sound so appealing.
The Law of Attraction, which we talked about a few weeks ago, basically says that what we think about, what we believe in, we draw to ourselves. By conquering your “goblin”—or even just dragging him out into the light—you’re also putting your intention to move forward out into the universe, which can create an immediate, positive impact.
With the season turning, change is in the air. If you’ve decided it’s time to kick your goblin to the curb, give me a call. I can help you pinpoint your limiting beliefs, formulate a plan of attack, and move forward in pursuit of your personal and professional goals.
PS: October 31—Halloween—was the last day of the year in the Celtic calendar. So if you’re in the mood to make a change, why wait until December 31? Banish your boogeyman on Halloween night, and start your new year critic-free on November 1!