The idea of Career Life Balance comes into everything I do as a coach, in one form or another. So I’d like to correct a common misconception.
Achieving balance doesn’t mean achieving perfection. You’re naturally going to swing back and forth between your job and your personal life; sometimes, more attention will be paid to one than to the other. It’s kind of like a see-saw, floating up and down depending on what’s happening on one end. And (unless you have twins) how often have you seen a see-saw balanced perfectly still in the air?
What’s beautiful about Career Life Balance is that it’s a process, an evolution, and not really a fixed goal. The most important thing is not to achieve perfect balance (because how boring would that be?) but to mindfully strive toward it.
If there’s anyone out there who needs to mindfully strive for balance, it’s me. I’m constantly in that evolution. What helps me is getting back to the basics, and taking the time to do the simple things that help stabilize my foundation. Sometimes, being a little out of balance isn’t a bad thing, because it helps me realize all the reasons why balance is important!
With the job market the way it is, and all the craziness on Wall Street in the last few years, a lot of people are in survival mode. They think that if they take the time to find balance—if they even take the time to think about finding balance—that they’re somehow compromising themselves or their chances for success. Of course, this isn’t true. Even if security is a major issue for you right now, will that security mean as much if you’re unhappy, or if you have no time to enjoy it?
Whether you’re in survival mode or striving to find your own personal balance, remember most of all that it’s okay to be human. You’re allowed to slide out of balance sometimes. You’re allowed to go gung-ho on a great work project, or slack off to spend time with your family. You’re allowed to sit with your head in your hands and wonder why things are the way they are. Just remember that change is the only constant. Learn from where you are, and be willing to flow with change. Trusting the process is the first step toward finding your best expression of balance.
Feeling stuck on the low end of the see-saw? Give me a call! I’m always here to lift you up! Also, for new clients, email or call me to schedule a complimentary consult!