Often, our biggest obstacles to success are the things we hold on to—fears, insecurities, and ingrained behavioral patterns that no longer serve us. Inevitably, there comes a time when we have to let these things fall away; when we have to clear away the debris of the past to make way for new growth. After all, if the trees held on to last year’s leaves all winter, there would be no room on the branches for spring buds, and no beautiful foliage to celebrate come autumn.
In many ways, the key to progressing is learning to let go. When you relax your rigid preconceptions around your goals and dreams, new possibilities begin to unfold. When you stop scrutinizing every detail, the big picture comes into clear view. When you stop thinking about what might happen and focus on what is happening, fear melts like ice cream on an Indian summer day.
When it comes time for the maples and oaks to put on their brilliant fall coats, they don’t resist or complain. They don’t stubbornly hold onto their summer green because “I might never see a summer like that again.” They don’t shrug off all their leaves at once in a show of defeat. They flow with change, because change is part of life, and even the most challenging changes can yield beautiful results.
If you’re finding yourself resisting change in your life, ask yourself why. What are you afraid of? What good things about what you have right now are you reluctant to lose? Sometimes, we’d rather stay in a bad but familiar situation than strike off into an unknown place where we can’t predict what will happen—but if you’re doing that, ask yourself if you’re really content to stay where you are forever. Sooner or later, autumn comes, and you’ll have to shed your skin for something better and brighter. It’s not a question of if, but when. Will you flow into change like the trees, with grace and optimism, or will you be dragged kicking and screaming through your next metamorphosis?
Most of the people I work with are trying to be more like the trees. They’ve recognized the need to shift something (or several things) in their lives, but aren’t sure where to begin. Unlike trees and forest creatures, we can’t always rely on our instincts to direct us—but we also have the unique ability to shape our lives and create our dreams from nothing more than a vision and a plan.
Part of my job is to help people figure out how to create change in their lives, why they’re resistant to change, and if the decisions they’re making are coming from a place of security or fear. Just like the most brilliant foliage is a result of several independent factors (temperature, soil conditions, rainfall) coming together in harmony, positive change comes from the alignment of planning, vision, and good old fashioned hard work.
If you’re ready for change, and want to come into the next season with a new outlook and fresh, bare branches just waiting to bloom, it’s time to let your leaves fall! Let go of what no longer serves you. Silence your internal critics and commentators (or at least ignore them), and step into the life that’s waiting for you! The big question is what do you need to let go of? Email me your biggest obstacle. DQ@CoachDQ.com
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